Lullabies for the Modern Mother
You already have what your child wants most. YOUR voice.
Would you like to set a HEALTHY FOUNDATION for your child during these precious and critical years, WHILE honoring your needs and finding JOY in your life as a mother?
If you desire:
- a simple yet powerful way to bond with your child
- to be deeply present in your parenting
- to provide quality care & nurturing for your child
- a process of nurturing that honors your own style and meets your child where she or he is at
- better sleep for your child – and you!
- to gift your child your best and simultaneously deeply nurture yourself
then you are in the right place!
We live in a world full of stimulation, rapid change, and agitation… with much cause for fear and anxiety.
Our lives have become increasingly high-tech and digital, often at the expense of the human touch that we now know is essential to our well-being.
The singing of lullabies has been a universally observed practice in nurturing children. Yet, as our society rapidly shifts away from traditions and becomes increasingly automated, fewer and fewer children are receiving this gift.
Cultures around the world have used lullabies throughout history, and we now need them more than ever.
Join us, as we take a sound healing-inspired approach to explore core aspects of this ancient and universal practice and additional creative possibilities.
Designed specifically for modern mothers, this program:
- helps you reconnect with the feminine: That soft and sweet essence that is available to nurture both you and your child, and also makes you more alluring to your partner!
- provides self-care and self-love: We emphasize the importance of sounds nourishing and comforting you – not just your child – and help you explore the options.
- maximizes the healing and recharging powers of sound: Essential for the busy and exhausted mama.
- embodies principles of conscious and mindful parenting: You will find that the approach is in sync with parenting styles that honor deep presence, and honoring of ourselves and our children.
- fosters sisterhood: You will find a strong and supportive community in this small and intimate group setting. We come together through live video interaction, deep sharing, and exercises done all together and with partners.
- emphasizes playfulness and creativity: So often pushed aside in our busy lives, playing is packed with benefits – it boosts happiness, energy, problem-solving, stress-relief, relationship skills, and creativity.
- honors uniqueness: As a mother, there can be so much pressure to do things the ‘right’ way. This program teaches a variety of ways to sing to your child, and encourages you to find and use a style that fits your strengths and interests.
- highlights how you are more than adequate for your child: Your voice carries a special tone to your child’s ears that no other voice in the world can provide. You will learn how to use your voice, so that what’s most important is not the quality of your vocal cords or your musicality, but the connection to your heart energy.
- encourages intuitive knowing: In a world of information overload, it’s easy to feel lost and clueless about the best answer. Many will claim to know what’s right for you because they assume the solution that worked for them is the one that will work for you too. But each child is so different and solutions vary case by case. Tuning into intuitive guidance can be a powerful tool in parenting and in life as a whole.
- heal the little singer inside of you that used to dream: So many of us dream of singing – or more specifically, of becoming a singer – because we live in a culture where it’s rare to have permission to sing our hearts out and feel great about it. Historically, people of all cultures sang no matter their quality of voice or musical talents – in daily family gatherings, at festivities in the village, work songs, lamentations, and so on. I believe singing is a basic desire in most people, at one point or another, before it gets smashed out of us. In my own journey I struggled to regain the confidence to sing and be comfortable with whatever came out. That is why I am dedicated to helping you bring back the healthy and oh-so-wonderful joy of singing. The sound healing approach used in the program teaches you to connect with and care for your voice in a whole new way. It is your birthright to sing, and to be able to sing unabashedly. By rewriting your story about not being good enough to sing, you can model for your child that it is a beautiful and permissible act to share your voice with the world, without shame.
We explore how deeply you can nurture yourself, how you can come into your most beautiful and loving presence despite challenges you face, and extend this presence as an offering to your child through your voice. Even as we cover more technical elements of lullabies, our focus will always be on lullabies as an art, rather than a science.
It’s an art that goes beyond notes and words.
To admit that life is tough for you at the moment – whatever the reason – and to honor that you are nonetheless doing your best, to express thoughts that comfort you in your own struggles so that you can extend this calmer presence to your child, so that you can model how to self-regulate and transition, to model self-soothing and nurturing, to connect with the deepest of love that lies within you – for yourself and for your child – and then offer it through sound, regardless of any perceived imperfections, this is all part of the beauty of lullabies.
That all sounds good, but…
“My baby won’t like my voice!”
Even if you think your voice isn’t good enough, I am here to assure you – your child will not notice or care. Studies confirm that it’s the one that your child wants to hear!
“I can’t sing!”
If you’ve had experiences in childhood or adulthood that have made you feel like you can’t sing, you are not alone. The sound healing approach we use in this program will help you mend these negative and limiting stories.
We also explore a variety of ways to use your voice, including ways to create lullabies without very much singing at all. If you can sing “Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star,” that’s more than enough!
“What if I REALLY can’t sing?”
You literally can’t carry a simple tune, or so you’ve been told.
It’s actually very rare that someone cannot learn to carry a tune with practice. Unless you have a mechanical challenge that makes you genuinely tone deaf, it is possible to learn! While this program is not designed to teach you to sing in tune, 1) you will find it is not essential in the approach taught in this program, and 2) I’ll be happy to guide and support you during private sessions built in to the program if you wish.
“I don’t know any lullabies with lyrics that I find suitable.”
We explore different ways to address this, including creating and improvising, adopting and adapting. I also introduce you to re-written lyrics to traditional lullabies that you can use as is, or as inspiration.
“Is my child too old for lullabies?”
Each case varies, but I generally recommend this program to mothers with children up to age 3.
If you are on the fence, please feel free to contact me. I’d be happy to speak to you directly and help you decide.
There are many accounts of older children – as old as 10, 11, even 12 – who still get sung to and request it from their parents, especially when they are needing extra comforting. However, these older age cases refer to children who have been sung to since they were young and thus are very familiar with the ritual, finding it familiar and comforting.
“I’m pregnant. Will this work for me?”
The short answer is Yes!
It’s a great idea to start practicing by singing to your child in-utero. In fact, it’s perfect in many ways:
- If this is your first child, you likely have more time and energy than a mother who already has a little one. Why not start practicing now so that you are a natural by the time the child is born – with so much else going on, you’ll be glad you already took the course!
- The type of deeper listening practiced in this program gives you a head start in connecting deeply with your unborn child.
- A huge role of lullabies – and what we practice – involves soothing yourself so that you can be calm and present for your child. While mamas and babies may have less stress before birth, any amounts of stress reduction is always a great idea, as stress is tangible to the child and will impact their long-term development.
- Studies show that babies recognize music they heard in-utero for up to a year. Hearing familiar music from days in the uterus can provide an added layer of comfort, including less crying.
- Lullabies in mama’s voice are extra important for preemies, and although you may not want to focus on the possibility of a preemie birth, if it does happen, you’ll really be glad you took the course!
It’s easy to fall into thinking that offering your singing voice is an act reserved for the ‘talented’ few, but studies suggest that young children benefit from your singing regardless of how ‘good’ or trained your voice may be. Children are highly receptive to mood and subtleties carried through sound, and the importance lies more in the love expressed through the sounds, rather than musical perfection.
Lullabies IN YOUR Voice:
- are a powerful amplifier and transmitter of your heart energy
- are packed with health and developmental benefits for your child, now and long-term, including improvements in the following areas: brain growth and function, confidence, mental & emotional health stability, capacity for relationships, sense of security, ability to trust, communication skills, feelings of compassion
- and benefits for you! – Expressing heartfelt and authentic sounds is extremely healing to our own bodies. In fact, your own voice is the most healing sound there is. Nourish your tired system, and soothe your worries and frustrations within you, all while doing the same for your child!
- are mobile – take it anywhere you go, no packing and carrying!
- are warm and nurturing – help balance the impersonal aspects of living in a technical and digital world!
- create beautiful and quality bonding, extra important when you have less time to spend with your child, or if you have a preemie – but so important for all!
- are easy – once you know what to focus on, find what works for you, and give it some playful practice!
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